Christian and I (Sarah) are the parents of a 4 yr. old, beautiful, sweet boy named Sven who was diagnosed with Leukemia on 4.19.09. Immediately we started chemotherepy treatment for Sven with the Pediatric Oncology Center @ Stony Brook University Hospital on Long Island, NY. I will outline some highs and lows and most of all type some frustrations away :-)

Friday, May 7, 2010

The Chosen Mothers

A Fellow Mother of a child with cancer passed this on to me, it took a matter of seconds for me to break into violent sobbing, 1. I do know that I was chosen for Sven, I knew the minute I met him that I had something so special more special I thought than what normally I should feel. 2. Sven and I had an instant bond that to me was beyond words, I did not have to say it, I think people saw it. 3. I never knew that I had such love or such love existed in me, I was his protector and the one that would provide an insane amount of love for us both to get through what we had no idea was coming our way!

The Chosen Mothers

Most women become a mother by accident, some by choice and a few by habit. Did you ever wonder how mother’s of children with life threatening illnesses are chosen?

Somehow, I visualize God hovering over earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and
deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger…….

“Foppiano, Christine, son, patron saint Christopher” Forrest, Marjorie, daughter, patron saint Cecilia”.”

Finally, He passes a name to an angel and says, “Give her a child with cancer.” The angel is curious. “Why this one, God? She’s so happy.”

“Exactly,” smiles God, “Could I give a child with cancer a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.” “But, does she have patience?” asks the angel,

“I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she will handle it.”

“I watched her today,” said God. “She has that feeling of self-independence that is so rare and necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has it’s own world. She has to make it live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”

“But Lord, I don’t think she believes in you,” said the angel. “No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.”

The angel gasps, “Selfishness? Is that a virtue?” God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes, here is the woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take anything her child does for granted. She will never consider a single step ordinary. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see….ignorance, cruelty, prejudice….and allow her to rise above them.”

“And what about her patron saint” asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.

God smiles and says…”A mirror will suffice.”


  1. I knew God wouldn't give us something that we cannot bear. And all the things happen for a reason, HIS reasons. I can say let HIS will be done.

  2. Following you.:) I will be praying for your entire family. Looking forward to getting to know you better.

  3. God Bless you Sarah and Sven. God Bless!

  4. I love your blog, you are such a strong Mama!!! I am pleased to have featured you today in my posts Blogs Worth Blogging about- it will be up soon!

    We are keeping Sven and your family in our prayers-

  5. What an awesome heart goes out to you.

    btw, here's an award for you:

  6. Stopping by to say Hi, and see how Sven is doing :)
    Hope that you and your sweeet boy are doing well.